Remembrance is about values

By Andrew Appleton / November 11, 2020 /

Today is Remembrance Day. We remember the sacrifices made by others to secure our freedom, a future many of them would never experience. Why would someone risk their life, not knowing what the outcome would be, to benefit another? It’s about values. We all have values, deeply held beliefs about the world and our place…

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Experience is your only possession

By Andrew Appleton / October 28, 2020 /

Your only true possession is your human experience. It is the only thing that cannot be taken from you. Everything outside of you exists merely because you experience it. This experience is uniquely your own. It will never be entirely accessible to another, nor theirs to you. Understanding this simplifies matters. For to optimize well-being,…

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What is the Human Condition?

By Andrew Appleton / October 27, 2020 /

Let’s start at the beginning. To get what you want you must know what you have. Everyone, every single person, wants to improve their experience of life. We are all chasing well-being. Why? The Human Condition. The Human Condition is what makes us human, apart from the animals. It is the condition we have inherited…

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Why We Care

By Andrew Appleton / April 21, 2020 /

During the COVID-19 pandemic we’ve seen the meme of doctors and nurses holding signs that read, “I stayed at work for you. You stay home for us.” This refers to health care workers willingly putting themselves (and their families) at risk to perform their work under more hostile than usual circumstances. When asked why, many…

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Breaking bread (not bad).

By Andrew Appleton / April 15, 2020 /

An interesting observation of human behaviour during the COVID-19 pandemic is to make note of which shelves in the grocery store are empty. We’ve all heard the meme about toilet tissue. Clearly a necessity, but an odd one to hoard. What I find more intriguing are the bare shelves of flour and yeast. It would…

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Remember what is important.

By Andrew Appleton / April 13, 2020 /

Most of us are craving the return to normal life right now. The same life that we used to complain about before it all changed. This reveals an interesting phenomenon of the human experience. We quickly adapt to any context in which we find ourselves. No doubt, this has served us exceptionally well over the…

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How to win the day during COVID-19 (or any day).

By Andrew Appleton / April 6, 2020 /

To understand something, you must strip it down to its raw ingredients, making sure you then understand each of them. Only then can you put them back together and assert that you know why the product of their constitution is what it is. The same applies to optimizing well-being. We need to understand the problems we have,…

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This isn’t the end of the story.

By Andrew Appleton / April 3, 2020 /

Perhaps you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, seeing no end in sight. You think this shouldn’t be happening, it doesn’t make sense. You want nothing more than for things to get back to normal. In a word, you’re suffering.  We are all suffering. Some more than others. That’s what happens when life changes quickly and we don’t…

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On Being Disappointed in Oneself

By Andrew Appleton / March 13, 2020 /

We’ve all experienced disappointment in many forms. Disappointment is the feeling of displeasure when something doesn’t turn out as expected. Perhaps the most insidious form is self-disappointment. It’s insidious because it occurs within the privacy of our own minds, subject to our inner monologues, badgering us relentlessly. I find the notion of being disappointed in…

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We Must Create Space

By Andrew Appleton / February 14, 2020 /

To give ourselves the best opportunity to optimise well-being, we must create space. There are three dimensions in which this space is to be created: time, physical, and mental. In a previous post I explored how time is simply a tool of measurement. We use it create order in our lives and our memories. We…

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Sorry. Not sorry.

By Andrew Appleton / January 24, 2020 /

Has someone ever demanded an apology from you? Have you demanded one from someone else? Have you refused to forgive someone? I am willing to bet you have experienced all three. You’re not alone. But, the way most of us think about apologies and forgiveness is wrong. Apologies and forgiveness are not for the person…

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The Vacation Fallacy – Part 2

By Andrew Appleton / September 24, 2019 /

In wonderfully coincident timing, the Farnam Street Blog recently published a piece (click here) on how to think about your travel experiences. Their thesis aligns with mine (confirmation bias alert) in that vacation should be used as an opportunity to experience the diversity of the world and promote different perspectives. In keeping with their theme…

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Be kind. Be curious. Be useful. And create.

By Andrew Appleton / August 28, 2019 /

My children are too young to have nuanced conversations about philosophies of life. Yet, I often think about the type of advice we should be giving them on how to live a meaningful life. While they may not recognize advice for what it is, at this point, I am mindful that we are already modeling…

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